A girl may be ‘in love’ with a boy and vice versa but it may only be infatuation. Infatuation and love are said to be difficult to distinguish from each other but that is really not so. For a novice relationship, the two may not know the difference between love and infatuation, and thinking that they both are really in love and cannot stay without each other, they may take the serious step of getting married. It is very common for umpteen couples to take the marriage vow when their relationship is still in the stage of infatuation with no love in it. Such marriages do not last long and generally end up in a disaster. Love is marked by patience and those in love are never in a hurry to get married. But, if those who married in haste while in the phase of infatuation in their relationship, develop self control, patience, unselfishness and genuine concern for each other, the infatuation can flower into love over some months or years and the love relationship that so develops can bring the two to enjoy a long lasting blissful marriage founded on love.
A relationship begins with infatuation and the joy of being together is found to be exciting to both; the two cannot see each others’ faults and shortcomings, and just long to be close to each other all the time. Everything looks simply wonderful without any flaws and the day looks shinier and brighter than ever before.
Infatuation for some does turn into love but this only occurs over a period of time, maybe over some months, and not instantly. Slowly yet steadily, the roots of love form and grow to strengthen a relationship making it durable and long-lasting. For others, who do not inculcate love in their relationship stay infatuated with one another for the rest of their togetherness; such relationship is likely to fizzle out finally.
It is vital to differentiate between infatuation and love so that one may know where their relationship stands, so as to allow it to progress on to love before contemplating marriage to his/her partner if they so desire or to know if it is only infatuation so not to think of marrying the partner but to call off the relationship. We can have a look at both the factors and see the difference.
Infatuation is a fantasy and a baseless feeling for the other partner situation. Love is not a feeling but a genuine concern for the other. It stands on reality of the relationship. Love is complex and does not have chaos in its composition; putting it differently, where there is love, there is first internal peace and harmony in the hearts of those involved in a relationship which is then visible externally to the two involved and to the people around.
Infatuation for some does turn into love but this only occurs over a period of time, maybe over some months, and not instantly. Slowly yet steadily, the roots of love form and grow to strengthen a relationship making it durable and long-lasting. For others, who do not inculcate love in their relationship stay infatuated with one another for the rest of their togetherness; such relationship is likely to fizzle out finally.
It is vital to differentiate between infatuation and love so that one may know where their relationship stands, so as to allow it to progress on to love before contemplating marriage to his/her partner if they so desire or to know if it is only infatuation so not to think of marrying the partner but to call off the relationship. We can have a look at both the factors and see the difference.
Infatuation is a fantasy and a baseless feeling for the other partner situation. Love is not a feeling but a genuine concern for the other. It stands on reality of the relationship. Love is complex and does not have chaos in its composition; putting it differently, where there is love, there is first internal peace and harmony in the hearts of those involved in a relationship which is then visible externally to the two involved and to the people around.
